The following was posted on Facebook three years ago to the day. A mundane event in the aftermath of the fall. He would do anything for her. No denying a father’s 💝. If only it was still that easy for her to be happy.
Billy needed a hair cut, first time since the accident and he was looking very wooly. He doesn’t have a regular stylist like Lulu and I but he does go to the same place – Sports Clips in Citybase about 4 or 5 x’s a year. They know him and consider him a ‘regular’
Lulu and I tried to talk him into getting the MVP treatment … the hair cut with hot towel, massage, etc…
Us “come on, you deserve it, the massage is the best … soooo relaxing”
Billy”grumble, grumble, words we could not understand”
Lulu “at least get your eye brows done” as she says to him once a week for the last however many years!
Billy “more unintelligible words”
We got there right when the place opened, he was the second one back. When he was done we were so surprised … the stylist asked if he wanted to do something about those long eye brows and he said “yea go ahead … that’d make my daughter happy”
And happy she is … it’s the little things that make you smile 🙂
Have a great Sunday one and all … it is going to be a glorious day!!
Funny what you forget. The mind’s way of coping I guess. This is about six weeks post fall. About three months before he went back to work. “It is what it is until it isn’t” is eerily similar to our mantra today.
So Billy Bob’s bright red cast came off for a few minutes today to be replaced by what? Another bright red cast. Everything looks good but the radial break is not quite healed yet.
Let’s face it he has old man bones. He now has a prescription for vitamin D. Once a week as more than that is no bueno.
He is still not released to drive. And he cannot do anything weight bearing with his right arm until Monday June 23rd. That’s when he will return to get the cast off for good. Followed by at least a month of physical therapy.
Disappointed sure … but … and there is always a but … it could be worse. The ortho waiting room was filled with walkers, wheelchairs, and crutches. The guy next to us was visibly wincing. He had been dropped off and when asked he replied “yep I am alone again. The bus will come back for me”. For better or worse at least we have each other. This guy was alone. In a wheelchair. I’ll never complain about driving Mr. Daisy again.
Lulu is glad to spend the summer with her daddy. Another silver lining. Maybe he can teach her to drive. Lord knows I’ve tried. Anyhow it is what it is until it isn’t. Still sunshine and roses. Oh happy day!!!
FB post from 5/4/14. We each contribute in our own way. When life throws you a curve ball, you improvise.
It has been a very productive Sunday. I am sous chef for B who though not able to use his right hand is determined to become a left-handed one armed chef extraordinaire ;). Most folks know that he is our primary cook and I am the chief bottle washer. Since his accident I have been filling in which means a lot of take out but when planning this week’s menus, he decided he can take over again as long as we make Sunday prep day.
So … I ground chicken and seasoned it for crispy tacos. Venison has been sliced into strips and seasoned for stroganoff. Frozen pulled pork from a prior bbq is thawing out in the frig. One night we’ll cheat and eat Bertoli frozen meals. We predict a leftovers night as well. Plus I sliced salami for his lunches. Washed cherry tomatoes and strawberries, peeled oranges, shucked corn on the cob and sliced and chopped onions.
This was my FB post from April 28, 2014. B had yet another follow up which didn’t yield the results he hoped for yet in the big scheme of things, he was blessed. WE were all blessed.
Dr. S is an excellent physician Dr. S has taken the best possible care of my Billy
Dr. S wears a wedding ring
Dr. S has pictures of his kiddos on the desk in his office
Dr. S is being deployed
When Billy goes back in three weeks, he will see Dr. O instead. So while the news of “No, you are not ready to get out of your cast yet – let’s give it three more weeks” and “No you cannot drive yet because quite simply, you cannot grip a steering wheel” were not what we hoped for … it is what it is. And B is strong, he will heal. He is healing as we speak and red is a good color for him. So he is keeping his red cast aka styling accessory. I forgot to ask if I could sign it or be-dazzle it up 😉
Godspeed to Dr. S. Words alone cannot express our gratefulness. THANK YOU and we wish you well!!!
Originally posted on FB, April 22, 2014.
Billy’s appointments went well today. He goes back 4/28 (wrist) and then 5/6 for (nose). I assumed incorrectly the nose would be done today but they will check his nose one more time before releasing him. He said enough with the photos so no unveiling of the new nose … which he claims is the old nose. Which does look surprisingly the same if not just a little off center.
I was in the room with him. Removal of the drain tubes, stitches and internal splints were pretty gross re-confirming I could never be a nurse. I once thought I could (to be exactly like my Aunt Jo) but again I am reminded that the heart may be in it but the rest of the body has to be there too. Happy Tuesday!!!!!!
As always more to come.
Not for the squeamish but … here is a picture of Billy Bob post Kevin Bacon’s nose job. Now if a reality TV star gets a new nose, he/she “vacations” in some exotic locale. B on the other hand heads for good ole China Grove and the couch in our den. He may never forgive me for this but I know he’ll always love me. And I’ll always love him.
Warning graphic pic follows:
As always, more to come.
At this point we were living at SAMMC. There almost every day. On 4/14, the day before the new nose day, they replaced the cast on his right wrist and set a follow up apppointment in two weeks.
This was written at 3 pm on 4/15/14.
Today sucked! And yes I already told myself it could be worse and it could be but … that does not take away from the fact that today blew chunks! Arrived promptly at 5:45 am for the 7 am closed nasal reduction. There were three other patients for the same (or similar) thing and only one surgical team. This time he drew the short straw and was 3rd of the three. Billy Bob was taken back at the time he should have been leaving. We just got home … will be a rough couple of days. But I am done with my pity party because we are home and for the moment he is pain free. Happy Tax Day one and all, enjoy the remainder of your day!
Then later that night I wrote:
For those of you who talked to Billy Bob tonight he won’t likely remember your conversation tomorrow. He’s still feeling no pain. So might not be a rough couple of days after all. Thanks to the miracle of modern medicine. I think I may have to hide his truck keys.
As always more to come.
Posts from April 7 & 8 2014
Good news today – ortho appointment buys Billy Bob another week! So far the cast is holding the set in place even though radial breaks have a tendency to slip and almost always require surgery. The intern who actually set the wrist in the ER got to see B today – he was extremely proud of himself for his handiwork as he should be. The intern’s boss – Dr. S agreed to the more conservative approach of watching and waiting. Since the swelling risk has decreased, they strengthened the cast removing the wiggle room initially left in case of swelling. Hoping that extra support will hold things just right. While surgery is still a possibility, the odds against it have improved. He’ll know more in a week.Still sunshine and roses around here! Have a great Monday everyone!
OMF went well today. The Mr. had his H&P (History and Physical). We got there an hour early to find parking and because of the required yellow form. Yellow form you ask? Well that is a very strict requirement for each and every civilian visit. One will NOT be treated without a yellow form. The doctor must sign it after examination and then the patient must return it before leaving – no exceptions! Today the yellow form process took no time at all because Bully Bob now has his orange civilian card – good for six months. Who knew? And since our life is still all sunshine and roses, they took him right in and he got done before his actual appointment time. We assumed he’d just go back on 4/15 but nope, while he is lucky, it won’t be that easy.
On 4/14 he’ll go to PAU in the morning and then see Dr. S in orthopedics that afternoon. I am still learning – PAU is simply Pre-Admission Unit where he’ll be assessed for what follows on 4/15 – hereby known as tax day aka new nose day or Kevin Bacon’s nose day ;). The PAU evaluation will take 2-3 hours. I said “WTH, he already had his H&P and this PAU stuff will take longer than the closed reduction. He has to be out before his orthopedic appointment because that is when they will tell him he won’t need surgery.” The clerk calmly responded, “don’t ask me I just schedule em ma’am”
Me “searching for a good omen” hearing Lulu’s voice “snap out of it”
I was reminded, it could be worse, it could ALWAYS be worse. So until next week (maybe longer), I am driving Mr. Daisy and we are already getting on each others nerves. Still feeling blessed and grateful but so ready to return to work.
Have a terrific Tuesday one and all!
From April 6, 2014
Yes he is home FB Friend.
The first 24-48 hours are just watch and wait … nerve wracking. Once they ruled out brain injury, it was safe for him to come home. They tell us nothing but critical care happens over the weekends. Since he was upgraded from critical, they cut him loose Friday night. He goes back in Monday to finalize the plan for his wrist. Right now it is set and depending on how things are shaping up, he may just continue in the cast for 4-6 weeks. That is what we hope for. Though surgery is still a possibility – worst case scenario. Not to push our luck, but everything is roses and sunshine so far 😉 Right ?!?!?! So cast it is! I have decided!!!
The bruising is still shocking but the handsome ICU nurse prepared us well for what to expect in that regard. His skin tone changes daily – such pretty shades of purples and blues. The watermelon, then peach over his right eye is gone and the remaining swelling has subsided except for at the bridge of his nose.
He is not pain free, I can tell … despite him trying to hide it. He wants to do everything for himself and he is already going stir crazy but this time he can get around – not like when he hurt his back last year and he was immobile. These injuries are technically worse but the quality of life is so much better.
Who knew that hurting his back last year would be the main reason he is doing so well today? After that happened he got healthy. His attitude about things changed making him better able to deal with what’s happening now. Of course, one could argue if he never hurt his back in the first place that in itself would have changed the trajectory of all the events that followed. When a butterfly flaps his wings in New Mexico, there’s a hurricane in China. Quit flapping your wings Mr. Butterfly; Mr. Billy Bob has reached his quota for injuries in his lifetime!! Now, that’s waxing philosophical to say the least.
He was lucky, very lucky, everyone has said so and given what we witnessed in just 36 hours at SAMMC, we very much agree.
This picture was taken about 7 pm on April 3, 2014.
Right after, I stepped out into the ICU waiting room. I was alone and never felt more isolated. A kind older gentleman started to give me his seat. He said “we are family now. Please join us to pray for our loved ones”
I broke into tears and slowly melted down the wall into a puddle on the floor. His wife came over and sat right next to me.
I will never forget this gesture. I will never forget what happened to his son. They were driving from Del Rio to San Antonio. While passing an 18 wheeler a steel rod broke loose and went straight through the windshield hitting his son in the head. A miracle his son was not decapitated. Yet this man and his wife and extended family were faithful. They had hope even as the circumstances were more dire than Billy Bob’s.
This is why I asked for prayers for all those at SAMMC. There but for the grace of God, go I. Even now I pray for those at SAMMC today. A prayer for faith, health and healing.
As always, more to come.