Vinegar Girl by Anne Tyler 

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Vinegar Girl is up next in my queue.  I’ve got to finish reading it by October 25, 2017 in order to participate in Schaefer Sippers Book Club.  I’m having trouble getting started despite this being a modern spin of Taming of the Shrew.  I mean c’mon.  How cool is that? Answer muy frio 😎.  It’s supposed to read like a fluffy beach read too.  So I’ve really got no excuse.  


JDubs Review of Hourglass Time, Memory, Marriage by Dani Shapiro 

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One woman’s story of married life with universal themes.  Shows how from outward appearances things can look one way all the while underneath the world is spinning out of control.  Also shows how we change as we grow older and things that once seemed very important do not always remain.  My current commonplace book has 6 more pages.  However I won’t spoil it for anyone.  You’ll have to read it for yourself.  Recommended.  Rated 4.5 of 5 stars ✨ 

More from Hourglass Time, Memory, Marriage by Dani Shapiro

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Two good ones today.  Hopefully my two cents don’t tarnish the goodness. 

  1. It steadies me to tell these things

The swirling thoughts are constant and getting it out helps immensely.  Most days I hold back.  Even while most days I’d prefer to shout from the mountain tops. 

2. Where does hope go when it vanishes?

Whoever answers that is the winner.  Hope is all we have some days … a life raft in the ocean of life.  

More from Hourglass Time, Memory, Marriage by Dani Shapiro

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Yay!  I am not a weirdo.  Okay I am weird but I own my uniqueness so suck it!  LOL!  That was a friendly suck it and you should too – own your uniqueness … no sucking required.  Mind outta the gutter people.  Yet again, not funny J-Dub and don’t quit your day job.


For years now I have been keeping small special notebooks into which I write passages that strike me hard as I read the work of others.  … called commonplace books. ~Dani Shapiro

There is a name for it even!  Squeal!!!! Commonplace books aka my collection of other peoples’ pearls of wisdom.  And sometimes fictional peoples’ enlightenment at that.

Criterion is that the words must pierce me, stop me, so that I can go no further until I write them down. ~ Dani Shapiro

Wowser!  B laughs at me for having my notebook with me when I read.  He will ask if I am reading or writing and I say both!  My take away is that there is a name for my affliction and words mean something.  Alan Watts may disagree and eventually I will get there but right now in this space and time WORDS have meaning and can convey a depth of emotion.

I just had a conversation with Pony ❤ … where I told him to choose his words wisely.  Once they are past the lips, they cannot be recalled.  Take a beat, a breath and then maybe even just listen.  Novel idea that sometimes it is better to stay silent.  My co-worker has this on her instant message tagline: Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. ~ Winston Churchill

Damn straight!  Sage advice from ole Winny or Churchy as I call him ;).   I have always had a thing for nicknames.

As always, more to come.


JDubs Review of Are You My Mother? A Comic Drama by Alison Bechdel

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When I saw the title, I thought of the book by PD Eastman with a similar title. A very Dr. Seuss type book.  Of course adding a comic drama after are you my mother? Makes the titles different enough.  I know nothing of copyright infringement but I guess it’s ok.  One day we could run out of original titles.  Hell there’s very little originality these days.  

I read the PD Eastman version to Pony boy over and over again.  I had had my own copy as a kid and I was trying to repeat history. One thing my mother did do for me was read to me.  Every night we had story time right before bed.  

Anyhoo, out of the rabbit hole.  No wait! Let’s hop back in.  

No doubt that mother daughter relationships are complex. This book is very relatable to me for lots of reasons. No my mother was not a repressed actress who settled into an expected life versus one of her choosing. But there were other issues obviously 🙄.  

Their phones call reminded me of my phone calls to mom.  I was always the caller and she was always the callee. Yes I made up that word.  It’s works though.  Boy how I continuously sought her approval.  Not sure she ever gave her approval to me.  She liked me needing her.  She needed me to need her.  How dysfunctional! Yet how repeatable.  Reason why I’m doing CBT.  

The book is a very easy read helped by the pictures. Just like when I was a kid, a picture book was my first love.  I eventually realized that the words were important. But to this day, I love a good illustration.  You know the saying a picture is worth 1000 word? It’s not cliché. 

As with all my reviews, this isn’t a “real” review.  It’s fake aka this is me just rambling. I will say I do highly recommend the book.  It’s a short easy read. With a lot of relationship dynamic.  If your lucky enough to still have your momma in your life, call her.  

4.6 of 5 Stars ✨. 

Re-reading IT by Stephen King

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Got my original copy back from the boy.  I mixed up my SK novels. IT came out in 1986.  I was already in my twenties.  The Shining is the one I read as a kid.  1977.  I read it by flashlight under the covers.  Ooooh.  Chills but oh so good.  

Wondering if I can make to through again considering I have the attention span of a gnat these days.  I’m up for the challenge I think 🤔.  I’ll put up some quotes as I come across them.  

As always more to come. 

Quotes from I need a lifeguard everywhere but the pool by Lisa Scottoline and Francesca Serritella 

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Me first: I keep a notepad and a pen with me when I’m reading my books. That’s a throwback  from middle school when every time I found a word I didn’t know I wrote it down to look up in the dictionary later. 

Do you remember the dictionary?  It was that big old book that little kids used to sit on to be tall enough to reach the table.  The one thing I will say I love about my Kindle is the built-in dictionary. Primo! Otherwise paper books to me are back in vogue.  

With this book though instead of writing words I didn’t know, I wrote quotes that made me laugh or otherwise struck a cord with me.  L  = Lisa the mom and F= Francesca the daughter.  Warning ⚠️ I relate more to the mom so I’ve got more mom quotes. None of the following are mine – source has been cited in title above.  Here are some faves in no particular order:

L= Lisa

  1. Web M.D. is my online porn.
  2. At her annual book club. I’m a hugger. It takes 2 1/2 hours to hug 1200 people. 
  3. Either we need more in love or we’re giving more in love but either way this is a miraculous and wonderful improvement for all mankind womankind and book kind. 
  4. The reason I not only read books but write them is to connect with people. Highest and best purposes of the arts – nurturance, happiness and love in that human connection.
  5. Facebook is used to lie to friends.  Twitter is used to tell the truth to strangers. Word! Twitter is a free way  for geniuses and knuckleheads alike to express themselves constantly refreshing comments section for a good or ill. 
  6. I’m a B and a C that I’m not a W.  B equals bulletproof C equals confident capable and cute. 
  7. Breasts aren’t girls, girls have breasts.  I know I took AP bio. 
  8. Generally a bra-less middle-aged woman is not being followed. Anywhere!
  9. I’m just riding around on my bike without a bra woo hoo
  10. I know that sounds totally wrong, but I read it on the Internet, so you know it’s 100% correct. When it comes to medical information the Internet is always dead on. 
  11. I don’t even know why we have doctors anymore oh right, we don’t. 
  12. All the arts are connected, his lyrics are poetry and poetry is certainly literature. 
  13. I’m an expert on outdated slang. You go girl!
  14. I’m going to get me a hula hoop. 

F= Francesca 

  1. Prioritizing our pursuits is part of adult life, and not everything makes the cut. Certain interests get demoted to hobby or shelved forever.
  2. Networking is the worst. I like people and I’m out going, but I like connecting on a real level… I make friends. I don’t make contacts. 
  3. The entire chapter on why F loves NYC. Get out the tissues.  

Verdict remains read this book!  

J-Dub’s Review of I Need a Lifeguard  Everywhere But the Pool by Lisa Scottoline and Francesca Serritella 

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The title might be longer than the review because when something’s that good, you don’t need much to explain it.  

In a word hilarious 😆 

Quick chapters of real life observation.  Very relatable humor.  My only critique is the self deprecating comments about weight by someone who’s pixieish.  Pictures don’t lie; you’re not the teddy bear 🐻you claim to be.  Though I do like that your daughter says that about your sweats affectionately.  

I still haven’t figured out a rating system so for now I’ll go with definitely recommended reading.