J-Dub’s log, star date March 22, 2020 about 3:55 pm CST. Yesterday and today I took time for self care. Selfishly I know considering there are degrees of this thing and us? Well, we are #blessedbeyondmeasure. Not sure how we lucked out but glad we did. And truth be told, I am feeling guilty. Like I should learn to drive a big rig. Or something. Don’t laugh. Okay laugh because that would be funny. “East bound and down loaded up and truckin we’re gonna do what they say can’t be done we’ve got a long way to go and a short time to get there …”
I slept in until 8:30 as part of my self care. Waffles were waiting for me and hot coffee. B takes good care of us. Not just because of shelter in place but because he is the head chef and I am the resident bottle washer. Thankfully this time together has not changed our dynamic.
I have heard from others that in no time at all, they are questioning things. Imagine being trapped with someone you come to realize you cannot stand? And on the other side, I have a dear friend who told me she has never been more painfully aware that she lives alone. Going to work was an outlet for her and now she is cut off as her firm is all working from home. I don’t understand completely what she does but she researches without much need to collaborate. We have facetimed more in the last three days than the entire time I have known her.
Last night I had a weird dream too but I remember it. A high school friend’s grand daughter was crying because her parents were fighting in another room. I was with her in the living room … just us but we could hear them screaming. I went to hug her but she bristled as I did. I was sure it was due to COVID-19. I stopped hugging her while saying calmly “we’ll all be okay” And she replied “We will! Do you know why? Because God will protect us”. Then I woke up.
As always, more to come.
J-Dub's Grin and Bear It 
Right before all of this got serious a friend told he had grown apart from his wife of 17 years and he moving out. His move won’t happen till June 1st, under normal circumstances I am sure there would be tension, but I can’t imagine what its like now….unless this situation brings them closer. My friend is in his 60’s and has been on disability 10 of the 17 years, i think their separation grew because she is younger and probably didn’t take the vow sickness and in health to heart. It truly takes a certain kind of person to become a caregiver/spouse. I am one of those special people. Before I got married a friend said, are you sure you are up to the task of taking care of your wife who is bipolar, i told my friend, my love is very strong and that yes I was up to the task, 10 years a couple/nearly 7 years married and as strong as ever.
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That is special and I do agree it takes a special person to be a caregiver. Cheers to 10 years a couple and cheers to forever more.
In our case we have been through some awful things that only served to bring us closer together. Children in distress, the loss of family members, home invasion, personal sickness to name a few.
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Happy that God’s gonna keep us all okay. We made it through the first week so I’m thankful for that. Stay safe!
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Last week was week one for us too. We started self imposed shelter in place on Saturday 3/14. Seems like seconds and forever ago. Wish you well my friend.
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Love your movie references. Good for you for taking care of yourself. No need to feel guilty. Thank goodness I’m with my best friend now and not my ex-husband. I don’t think my ex would make it through a quarantine with me. I’m menopausal now and he’s a jackass. 🤔 thank god for small favors!
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I am fortunate, too. We fare very well together.
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