It’s only ugly if you’re vain: Part two

I’m going gray … I wrote about it here

It’s hard y’all when the peanut gallery comments but it’s especially pitiful to hear rudeness from family. So much for “at least it’s the good kind of gray” Today my mother-in-law told Lulu:

Your mom has given up.

Is she depressed?

She is so smart and she’s pretty except for her hair.

If she’d only color it again, she’d look 15 years younger.

I’d even offer to pay for it.

Tell your mom she can’t let B’s decrease in income stop her from taking care of herself.

She’ll never get that job.

Wait what?!?!?

Eff that! Oh no she didn’t. But sadly she did. Why do women do that to each other? Tear down. Instead of lift up. Not all women, this particular piece of work.

First of all don’t ask my child if I’m depressed. Second of all money has little to do with it. Unless time is money. Then yes. Third acceptance has everything to do with it. I’m gladly accepting what the good lord gave me.

I’m tired of trying to live up to society’s expectations. I’m not depressed. I’m in the best head space of my life. Truly. That doesn’t mean I’m perpetually happy. There are days. Y’all know. I release the hounds and move on!!

Eff it!! Now I’m more determined to buck the system. Who gets to define beauty? I mean really.

As always more to come.


21 thoughts on “It’s only ugly if you’re vain: Part two

  1. You’re better off leaving it alone and letting nature do what it wants to do. Mary dyed her hair for about a year, then decided it wasn’t worth it. After a while, her natural color (dark brown with a lot of gray) started showing through and she started getting compliments from her friends: “Your hair looks great! What are you doing with it?” Look at Jamie Lee Curtis: a few years ago she decided she wasn’t going to color her hair or wear makeup, and she looks fantastic.

    As for the rude comments from your family, screw ’em if they can’t take a joke.

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  2. Ditto to Laura’s answer 😁. My hair is ‘sorta grey/sorta mousy blonde/sorta nondescript color’ these days and I ignore it. But a couple years ago on a visit to my daughters, she’d booked me into a chair next to her – thinking I would probably back out – hadn’t been in forty years. But I marched in and said to the stylist ‘platinum! Make it all platinum!!’
    I absolutely loved the result 😄. Of course now it’s back to mousy/nondescript/sorta grey……and I ignore it.

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    1. Thanks for the comment. I’m glad you loved your platinum color. That’s what matters.

      For me, I like what I see coming in. Like a badge of honor. I feel real. What I dislike is the peanut gallery and their comments. Or the judgment of society in general. At least some folks are polite enough not to say anything. And most probably don’t even give a fig about my hair. I’m not the sun after all 😂. Earth doesn’t revolve around me.

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      1. Society will always judge – and peanut gallery? I always figure the more miserable they are in their own lives – the more miserable they are to others in a lame attempt to make themselves feel better.

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    1. Thanks Dan.

      That helps because I thought I’d decided but now I’m back on the fence.

      Makes me think. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Guess we all get to decide for ourselves.

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