01/03/2019 – J-Dub's Grin and Bear It

Your prompt for JusJoJan 2019, January 3rd, is your blog. Why did you start blogging? How did you come up with your theme, if you have one? How has it changed your life? Tell us about your blog in your jot! Enjoy!

Why? I started blogging in earnest in July of 2016 to prepare myself for an empty nest. My baby girl was headed off the college that August and I had no idea what I would do to fill my time without her being here. There’s a term for that … co-dependency I think? Anyways, I always enjoyed writing, having kept a journal since grammar school. So I thought why the hell not??

Theme? My initial site title was Musing and Ramblings or Ramblings and Musings with the intent to be an eclectic hodgepodge of whatever popped into ye old noggin. But I soon learned there were quite a few similarly named blogs in the blogosphere. I decided in my first housekeeping attempt, to spruce up the place with a re-name to J-Dub’s Grin and Bear It (see me here gritting my teeth? That’s grinning and bearing it. I do it ALL the time) and a new FREE theme. I won’t pay for premium, heck I won’t even buy new shoes when my soles fall off. And when I hear terms like self-hosting, my mind goes numb. Huh? Whaaa? Where am I?

I also decided early on to mask my identity … well not mine but that of my family & friends. They all have pseudonyms or I simply use initials. Fun!!! My tag line is borrowed … As Always, More to Come because life keeps giving even when we’ve had enough.

How Has Blogging Changed Your Life? Oh my, well I might get misty. You guys have no idea do you? Just how much you have opened my eyes to a world so much bigger than I ever thought existed. You’ve restored my faith in humanity! I am the Queen, Drama but I am serious y’all. No over exaggeration necessary. Tis truth!! There ARE decent folks out there. Wise, intelligent, witty, brilliant creators of art in all forms. Muah!!!! I wanna be you when I grow up. You know who I’m talking to – YOU! who are reading this post.

Other social media forums are not as forgiving. And maybe I have just been lucky to avoid the trolls here in Word Press. Somehow or another this group feels different. More tolerance … even acceptance. The best part is the laughter. My lawd yes! I have laughed … the deep in your belly or snorting, can’t speak while tears are rolling kind of giggles. Being able to unleash the hounds and laugh while doing so helps tremendously with getting through this thing called life.

Rules and Ping Back

Decisions

That’s the running theme lately in several of the blogs I follow. I don’t envy my blogging buddies. Sometimes there’s a conundrum the size on Alaska. A choice that even the best pro/con list can’t solve. Ultimately we do the best we can with what we know. Cosmic how I find myself in similar circumstances.

I was going to pitch my plight to the blogosphere but then I decided. I’m as shocked 😳 as you. You see no good can come from saying what I know.

But seeing him like that … pleading with me to show him how to get an Instagram so he can make sure she’s okay … well no words 😶 and here come the tears again.

B tells his Dad

It’s better this way. You think you want to know. You don’t. Please just let it be.

I didn’t help. But I’m left with questions. Am I doing the right thing? Should he see for himself? Is ignorance really bliss?

The older I get I believe with my whole heart ❤️ that it is. Ignorance is fucking nirvana. So many things I’d put back. Un-know if possible. The conspiratorial “I’m telling you this for your own good” is bullshit. I could have gone my whole life not knowing what I know in certain instances. I’m not passing that baggage along.

As always more to come.