Partial Review of Far From The Tree by Andrew Solomon

I’m on page 400 of 702 and that doesn’t include the Notes and Bibliography which puts this book at over 900 pages. Small print, single spaced and worth the effort. I’ve learned so much. I can’t wait to see the movie and wonder who they will showcase.

Main lesson learned is one never knows what someone else is going through. How we choose to deal (or not) with our circumstances varies widely. One could say we’re never given more than we can handle but there is are entire section on filicide. Parents who snap/break. Unimaginable.

I probably shouldn’t be reading this as I’m emotional as of late. But I’m drawn in. The human condition is fascinating. For now, I’ll close with a few quotes from my common place book:

  • … “post human future” in which we eliminate the variety within mankind.” ~ Francis Fukuyama
  • … his murderous crime “was inherited in his organism and came from ancestor” ~ Clarence Darrow
  • The attribution of responsibility to parents is often a function of ignorance, but it also reflects our anxious belief that we control our own destiny.
  • Parents are not powerful enough to cause disease.
  • “If we tolerate prejudice toward any group, we tolerate it toward all groups.” ~ Benjamin Jealous
  • … “that the light enters you at bandaged places.” ~ Rumi
  • “Though I have gathered statistics, I have relied primarily on anecdotes because numbers imply trends, while stories acknowledge chaos.”
  • This book’s conundrum is that most of the families described here have ended up grateful for experiences they would’ve done anything to avoid.

I’m seriously considering going back to school. It’s never too late right? You betcha.

As always, more to come.

So, … Quote of the Day from an Unlikely Source

I am not a big fan of the TV show South Park.  Sure I like to laugh but sometimes I found this show pushed the envelope on what felt comfortable to me.  Not judging any die-hard fans.  To each his own as they say.

Pony had just turned 9 when this show first aired.  We were living in town at the time and had cable TV but only basic.  South Park was not on our TV line up and even if it was, we knew better.  Though animated, the content was purely adult.  Imagine our surprise when we got called to the school because Pony was quoting South Park during recess.

The little rascal had found a way to watch with his friends who had the supreme cable package.  No more  sleepovers without parental supervision.  That was about the time when the boys began to stay exclusively at our house.  And I am not naive enough to think they still didn’t get into “stuff”.  Even today they like to shock me with tales of their antics.  Lalalalalala.  I do not want to know.  Oy Ve!

Any Who, see how my mind wonders.  I came here to quote from the show even though I do not particularly care for it.  Demonstrates nothing is absolute because even in irreverence, there is hope/beauty/goodness.

Butters from South Park said:

“Well yeah, I’m sad, but at the same time I’m really happy that something could make me feel that sad. It’s like, it makes me feel alive, you know? It makes me feel human. And the only way I could feel this sad now is if I felt somethin’ really good before. So I have to take the bad with the good, so I guess what I’m feelin’ is like, a beautiful sadness.”

Missing loved ones near and far; here and especially in the netherworld.  May the souls of the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace. Amen.

As always, more to come.

For 8/19/18 ~ Sing Along Song – Destroyer by the Kinks



1.  make a quick, nervous movement of the face or body as an instinctive reaction to surprise, fear or pain.

I have been flinching a lot of that lately.  But today I am trying to find peace.  I do that by listening to music.  I found this video because I was looking up the word paranoia.  Hi my name is J-Dub and I like to make up stuff.  Well actually I hate it.  My mind is working overtime.  Stop damn thoughts!

Disclaimer: I have no copyrights to the song and/or video and/or hyperlinks to songs and/or videos and/or gifs above. No copyright infringement intended.

Met a girl called Lola and I took her back to my place
Feelin’ guilty, feelin’ scared, hidden cameras everywhere
Stop! Hold on. Stay in control

Girl, I want you here with me
But I’m really not as cool as I’d like to be
‘Cause there’s a red, under my bed
And there’s a little yellow man in my head
And there’s a true blue inside of me
That keeps stoppin’ me, touchin’ ya, watchin’ ya, lovin’ ya

Paranoia, the destroyer.
Paranoia, the destroyer.

Well I fell asleep, then I woke feelin’ kinda’ queer
Lola looked at me and said, “ooh you look so weird.”
She said, “man, there’s really something wrong with you.
One day you’re gonna’ self-destruct.
You’re up, you’re down, I can’t work you out
You get a good thing goin’ then you blow yourself out.”

Silly boy ya’ self-destroyer. Silly boy ya’ self-destroyer

Silly boy you got so much to live for
So much to aim for, so much to try for
You blowing it all with paranoia
You’re so insecure you self-destroyer

(And it goes like this, here it goes)
Paranoia, the destroyer
(Here it goes again)
Paranoia, the destroyer

Doctor, Doctor help me please, I know you’ll understand
There’s a time device inside of me, I’m a self-destructin’ man
There’s a red, under my bed
And there’s a little green man in my head
And he said, “you’re not goin’ crazy, you’re just a bit sad
‘Cause there’s a man in ya, gnawin’ ya, tearin’ ya into two.”

Silly boy ya’ self-destroyer.
Paranoia, the destroyer

Self-destroyer, wreck your health
Destroy friends, destroy yourself
The time device of self-destruction
Light the fuse and start eruption

(Yea, it goes like this, here it goes)
Paranoia, the destroyer
(Here’s to paranoia)
Paranoia, the destroyer
(Hey hey, here it goes)
Paranoia, the destroyer
(And it goes like this)

Paranoia, the destroyer
(And it goes like this.)

Writer: Dave Davies

As always, more to come.

#FlashFiction ~ 8/19/18

Today kinda sucked for Mary.  Started off late, hitting snooze and getting stuck in traffic.  Making up for it with breakfast from the drive thru, a once in a while treat.  Things were on the upswing.  Then afternoon-ish without warning. Bam! Life happens.

You see without providing all the gory details, Mary knows the world is full of not so nice people.  People who lie, cheat, and take advantage of an underdog schizophrenic brother all with the guise of ending every phone call with have a blessed day.

Coereced she paid early.  But would it ever really go away?

99 words of 100 words or less #FlashFiction challenge.

As always, more to come.

For 8/19/18 ~ Be Not Afraid by Robert J. Dufford, S.J.

Helen gave us the prompt fear.  Immediately this song came to mind.  It is Sunday after all.  A bit of a twist as the song is about the opposite of fear.  Written by Robert J. Dufford, S.J.  Sung by John Michael Talbot.

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As always, more to come.