In a world where you can be anything, be KIND! ~ Unknown
Some folks may equate being kind with being a doormat or a weakling. Those are not the same things … or they do not have to be. Every fool thought I have does not need to pop out of my mouth. Especially when those fool thoughts are mean. I am the worst y’all. You’ve no idea. As a protective coping mechanism, my tongue can be razor-sharp.
As I work in progress, I am learning to let some things go. I know I have changed. I am better today than I was yesterday. Maybe tomorrow, I’ll slip. Then the next day, forward. One trick that works for me (when I remember) is asking myself:
- Is a response necessary?
- What are my motives?
- Are my words kind?
I call it the 1-2-3 kindness method. Not original I know. Some hybrid pieced together CBT. Here are my asnwers:
- “Silence is sometimes the best answer” Quote by Dalai Lama XIV
- To be right! Very bad motive. Being happy is better.
- Not usually. In these types of situations, I go for mean.
And then I hold my tongue. Try it, see how this method works for you.
As always, more to come.
This post was written as part of Blogging From A to Z April (2018) Challenge.