K is for Kind ~ April 12, 2018

In a world where you can be anything,  be KIND! ~ Unknown

Some folks may equate being kind with being a doormat or a weakling.  Those are not the same things … or they do not have to be.  Every fool thought I have does not need to pop out of my mouth.  Especially when those fool thoughts are mean.  I am the worst y’all.  You’ve no idea.  As a protective coping mechanism, my tongue can be razor-sharp.

As I work in progress, I am learning to let some things go.  I know I have changed.  I am better today than I was yesterday.  Maybe tomorrow, I’ll slip.  Then the next day, forward.  One trick that works for me (when I remember) is asking myself:

1. Is a response necessary? 
2. What are my motives? 
3. Are my words kind?

I call it the 1-2-3 kindness method.  Not original I know.  Some hybrid pieced together CBT.  Here are my asnwers:

1. “Silence is sometimes the best answer”  Quote by Dalai Lama XIV
2. To be right! Very bad motive.  Being happy is better.
3. Not usually.  In these types of situations, I go for mean.

And then I hold my tongue.  Try it, see how this method works for you.

As always, more to come.

This post was written as part of Blogging From A to Z April (2018) Challenge.

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