J is for Judgment ~ April 11, 2018

Judge not lest ye be judged yourself.  Tis true.  Fact of the matter everyone judges.  Liar, liar pants on fire if you say you don’t.  I guess we are all in good company.

But then there comes momma.  She’s disappointed in her chick-a-dee again and says “If all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you jump too?”  Smart-Alecky kid might say “Yes! I’ve always wanted to try bungee jumping!”

Trying not to be hypocritical here but this is one of those things I have mixed feelings about.  Is judgment anything more than expressing one’s opinion?  And shouldn’t we all express ourselves just like Madonna? And gosh no, I’d never want to be like Madge.  Judge much?  Why yes, yes I do. No offense to the trailblazer intended.

It’s a conundrum folks.  I am in a pickle.  Wasn’t idiom yesterday Jilly? Move on to your point.  Do you even have a point?


I found myself irritated by a fellow blogger after reading his post on what he thought women should do to look good for their men.  As a female of the fluffy variety, I was oh so tempted to comment.  You see folks I had this burn of a comeback all tee’d up and ready to go.  I was going to show him and put him in his place.  Very cruelly and craftily.  But and it’s a BIG BUTT, my comeback would have been me being a different brand of judgmental.

I didn’t agree with what he had to say yet I cannot disagree with his right to voice his sad, tired, lame ass opinions.  The only thing within my power was to scroll on by and quit following the misogynist pig.  There I said it! What a douche bag!  Yep.  That’s MY opinion and I am entitled to it.

Things that make you go hmmmm.  So talk among yourselves.  We can have a real Mike Myer’s coffee clutch in my comments section.

As always, more to come.

This post was written as part of Blogging From A to Z April (2018) Challenge.

Numero Diez.


14 thoughts on “J is for Judgment ~ April 11, 2018

  1. Oh I love this post, I live in a country that leads me (often) to a ‘I can’t believe what I just saw’ thoughts. I am trying really hard to not be judgemental and to remember I am an honoured guest in a faraway land. Who I am to say that my western idea of what is right or wrong is correct? I recently wrote about Elephant Polo as an example, cockfighting would be another… Am I being judgemental or just right? LOL
    Thanks for this post.
    Wren x

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    1. You’re being just right in that it’s YOUR opinion. 😊Tolerance and respect are ways to have both maybe? Perhaps how we act on our judgment is more telling of the kind of people we are.


  2. You’re not wrong about an opinion and judgment being the same. I looked up the definition online, and here is the definition of opinion it gave. Opinion: a view or JUDGMENT formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge. As far as opinion/judgment I am not the best one because I know I am not suppose to judge but the things that I should not do, I do, and the things I should do, I do not. To quote the Bible twice there. I feel that if giving your opinion makes you feel better, then feel better but I sense you are much like me that it would feel better in the moment, and maybe a little after that but then it would be followed with guilt. I save those “opinions/judgments” for the people who know me and will understand I am just letting off the steam, and that it will pass. I don’t know if that makes what I am doing any better but it makes me feel better in the long run.

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  3. Good points here J-Dub. Hard not to judge sometimes, especially if all the facts are unclear. I’m trying my best to learn not to judge a book by its cover – or a person by his/her appearance.

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  4. This is huge! I’ve spent so much of the last couple of years trying to write kind but brutal responses to people who anger me on social media. But this has put me in a dark, critical space, and I am not naturally a critical person; so I can only imagine what this does to people who are naturally a little more critical. I have had to consciously take myself out of that place. I don’t want to live in an echo chamber either though, so I try to find respectful people to listen to that I disagree with, and if I find myself composing responses to them in my head, I get out of there. We’ve gotten too cruelly judgmental in our society, and trying to fix it only makes it worse!
    Melanie’s Stories

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    1. You get it! We are similar then. I took a step back from social media and it helped but like you say we do not want to live in an echo chamber. Balance is the key. For me picking my battles carefully. I have a personal journal where I completely let loose. That helps too.


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