The Moral of the Story

I heard it from a friend who heard it from a friend who…  And no this is not a REO Speedwagon sing along song of the day. No one’s been messing around.  Wait!  Go back! Click the link and listen.  See what I did there?  Enjoy the song styling of Pit Bull and Mr. Iglesias.  Hehe! Now move forward to this stream of consciousness composition.

I do not think I am breaking any copyright laws in my attempt to paraphrase a story told to me recently.  And before I proceed, I better know I am not breaking the law.  Ignorance is bliss but Ignorantia juris non excusat or ignorantia legis neminem excusat.  Learn your Latin peeps.  I wouldn’t get off scot-free.  Anyways, I Googled the crap out of the tale and came up with zilch.  Breaking the law.  Squirrel.  JUDAS PRIEST!!!!!!!  one of my faves.  Especially the following lyrics:

So much for the golden future I can’t even start
I’ve had every promise broken, there’s anger in my heart
You don’t know what it’s like, you don’t have a clue
If you did you’d find yourselves doing the same thing too

Now wait just a minute J-Dub.  How did we get here?!?  Well, just so happens the lyrics fit the mood and the moral of the story.  In the round about way that I connect dots.  You may not see clearly right away … until the rain has gone.  That’s me, channeling my inner trulyunplugged.

In general, mental health issues are misunderstood.  Physical disease we understand but mental disease not so much.  Hell, I even spent time today watching bloggers go at it over the topic.

One said, “Mental illness is like diabetes!”

While the other said “Hell no it is not!”  

One said “Well fuck yourself! You’re an idiot.  Depression, anxiety, etc… are illnesses.  Invisible illnesses”  

While the other said “Well fuck you too! And grow a pair.  Man up buttercup and try to live life stone cold sober”

Ping Pong, Ping Pong. And who the hell wants to do that?!?  Sobriety is overrated.  Lots of alcoholics out there might tell you otherwise.  Oops, there I go again starting stuff.  I would never joke about such a disease as serious as alcoholism.  I’m being sarcastic and snarky in case you missed that!!!! And speaking for Snark.  Check out this cool site.  Go ahead!  Look.  I’ll wait.

Ready to go again?

I definitely have unwavering opinions about all this though – each person’s circumstance varies!  Ha! So much for definitely … so much for unwavering.  One fucking size, never fucking fits ALL!!!!!!! Hence the you don’t know what it’s like, you don’t have a clue.  

Most people are clueless with regards to mental health issues.  Only 1 in 5 get it so only 1 in 5 understand.  Well if you are lucky maybe 2 in 5 … you know that close friend who doesn’t judge and loves you unconditionally.  That family member who you can count on.  Your therapist who gets to hear you ramble on and on about your first world problems never once saying “Jill, just get over yourself”.  She doesn’t have to since I say that to myself enough for both of us.

Thank ya Jesus for letting the masses be clueless!  I would not wish this sH!t on my worst enemy.  Now wait another minute J-Dub’s, how did we get here?  All you wanted to do was share a nice story that impacted you deeply and maybe make some people cry (happy tears).  You know, write something with human connection.

Here goes nothing.  Moving story, make people cry ….

When I woke up last night and could not go back to sleep, this story was ALL that I could think about.  Well that and other stuff that kept me up for who the hell knows how long because in true compulsive learned behavior, I refused to look at the clock.  Alarm clock avoidance is an old how to deal with insomnia trick.  And this particular trick works for me.  I probably am running on 3 hours sleep but I won’t know that … so there!  Take that you bastard insomnia!

Here goes nothing take two:

A man was in a boat with a group of boy scouts.  They were having a wonderful time out on the ocean fishing.  They were in deep waters yet they could still see the shoreline.  They had a good catch and were about ready to call it a day when the clouds got dark, the wind kicked up, and the storm rolled in.  Their small vessel capsized.  Everybody was thrown into the waves.  The man had two choices, he could try to save the boys or he could swim to shore.  He knew in an instant that they would all perish and as painful as it was, he started to swim to shore.  As his feet hit the bottom and he was able to stand, he looked back expecting the worst.  To his dismay, the boys were following him; swimming after him to the shore.

I cried when I first heard the story (and I am bawling like a baby again right now) because A) the friend who told me this lesson is priceless.  She is someone who I can cry with and not be embarrassed about doing so afterwards; B) ALL of the boy scouts and the scout master survived; and C) The day before I heard my therapist reaffirm for me that I needed to take care of myself before I could help my baby girl.  She used the analogy – just like the preflight safety message: If you are travelling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your mask on first, and then assist the other person.

And the moral to the story is … you tell me.  I would love to hear some comments.  Your feedback is the reason I blog.  Well that and the part about me becoming famous one day … in my own mind that is :).

As always, more to come.

P.S.  <lost> Hence the post Ugh!  and it was good.  I think.  I highlighted two music links and three bloggers.  Maybe I can add more later.

13 thoughts on “The Moral of the Story

  1. Thank you for this. I love seeing blog posts mentioning mental health awareness – it’s MUCH needed! WHO (World Health Organization) says this about it:
    “One in FOUR people in the world will be affected by mental or neurological disorders at some point in their lives. Around **450 million** people *currently* suffer from such conditions, placing mental disorders among the LEADING causes of ill-health and disability worldwide. Treatments are available, but nearly **two-thirds** of people with a known mental disorder never seek help from a health professional.

    Stigma, discrimination and neglect prevent care and treatment from reaching people with mental disorders. Where there is neglect, there is little or no understanding. Where there is no understanding, there is neglect.”
    Depression is now the leading cause of ill health and disability worldwide. According to the latest estimates from WHO, more than **300 million** people are now living with depression alone, an increase of more than 18% between 2005 and 2015. And it is still rising rapidly.

    WHO Director-General, Dr Margaret Chan says: “These new figures are a wake-up call for all countries to re-think their approaches to mental health and to treat it with the urgency that it deserves.”

    After 30 years of beating this drum, I no longer cut ANY slack to folks who refuse to try to understand mental health issues – there is NO excuse for that level of self-involvement! I now call it what it is: ignorant and cruel.

    I don’t wish them ill and don’t have to. 1/4th of them will learn what it’s like up close and personal before they leave this earth. Education and spreading awareness – and standing up to people who lack empathy – is what’s called for now.

    Yep! I have very strong feelings about it.
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
    ADD/EFD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
    “It takes a village to transform a world!”

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    1. The statistics are staggering. It definitely takes a village. 30 years beating the drum is impressive. Thanks for the read. And thanks for sharing the information. We’ll keep spreading the word!

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  2. Reblogged this on J-Dubs Grin and Bear It and commented:

    Hello everyone. Today, Sunday 5/21/17 in the year of our Lord, I am re-blogging my own post in honor of May Mental Health Awareness Month. Self-care, forgiveness, helping yourself first so you can assist someone else. One in Five. And to think there are still people out there who think mental illness is not really an illness but rather a sign of weakness. Suck it up buttercup my a$$. For example, there was (by some) a vitriol reaction to Chris Cornell’s suicide. No sympathy much less empathy. Jesus wept. He would be so ashamed of YOU! Those of YOU who judge.

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  3. Several points stood out
    1. Storms come
    2. The Shore never moved & was an ever present help for life.
    3. Don’t dwell on choices. Trust ” Safety” First & Get to It.
    4. Don’t Expect Only Negative Outcome When “Safety”is Put First Above All else.
    5. One has really no idea the strength others learn from another & thier ability survive by instinct & observation.
    6. Know one can get feet back onto ground by Effort & Full Trust in “Safely”.
    7. This one from me – When in doubt – Leave it out! ..Goes for “Spinning thoughts” Also! …Take all thoughts to “Safety” Dismiss thoughts that don’t line up what “Safety” provides…solid, grounded, helpful to life, positive outcomes.
    8. Courage to let go of fears. / Trust what is instilled within “Safety” Gaurdrails.
    9. Have the Hope of Faith that’s Ready to put into action Always, No Matter What Circumstances Look Like to the. human eye.
    10. Guilt is a tool meant to destroy. Expectations can emotionally kill.
    11. Keep on Keepin On!!

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  4. First off, great stream of consciousness flow
    Second off, you need some sleep 🙂
    Third off, the Judas link thingy did not work for me here in Oz as it is copyrighted 🙂
    Fourth off, mental illness is very poorly understood by most who have not been exposed to it in one way or another. You can’t walk in another person’s shoes, but you can understand and empathise. I worked as a mental health nurse for over 30 years. It was a privilege and an honour
    Fifth off, go get some sleep !

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