The Great Indoors starring the talk soup guy had the best millennial comeback “Don’t forget my generation is only like this because of the bad parenting of your generation”
Yep. This is another if only post. If only, I knew then what I know now. If only, I had a second chance. If only, I could forgive myself for all my wrongs.
Damn empty nest full of regret. The weather today is affecting my mood. I’d swear I have seasonal depression but supposedly I live too far from the equator. Rainy mood on this rainy day.
For the past few Saturdays, there has been a “crisis” of some sort for Lulu. I am powerless to help being geographically separated. Then I think maybe that is really for best because how else will she adapt and grow? She will figure things out. At least I hope she will figure things out. Yet Hope can be like Karma – two bitches!!!
Last night, coming down from the “crisis”, our hope sparkled conversation went something like this:
Me: “You know you have nothing to prove right? No one decides their life’s profession in 2nd grade. If the course work is not what you thought and/or something you don’t like, change your major.”
Lulu: “I know but I have not changed my mind.”
Me: “Remember I told you about my friend who’s daughter was going to major in math just like she did and become an actuary. After one semester she was miserable and switched. She never looked back is very successful in her chosen field.”
Lulu: “I remember! How could I forget?!?? Repeat Polly!!! Stop trying to change my mind would you? Things are hard enough. I just miss you guys and can’t wait to be home for Spring Break.”
Me: “Okay I’ll quit. And I’m not trying to change your mind. I just don’t want you to make choices based on what you think WE want. This is YOUR life.”
Lulu: “I know, you’re a broken record mom! Remember, those things they had in the 70s or 80s … before I was even born.”
Me: “That’s my girl! Sarcasm will take you far :). I just don’t like it when you are so upset. If things are so bad away at school, do you want to come home next semester? You can always finish school from here.”
Lulu: “No, I will just plan better for next semester so I do not have any more nights like this.”
Me: “Well alrighty then.”
As always, more to come.