Look them in the eye; they may just be your kindred spirit


I recently blazed through two articles on the importance of eye contact … I don’t remember all the specifics because I fancy myself to be Evelyn Wood speed reader … born after 1972 and you’ll likely have no idea who I speak of … this Evelyn Wood.  She was da bomb diggity … taught people how to speed read … rabbit hole alert …  down I spiral but, she is back …

What I took away from the articles was how important … and humanizing eye contact can be… so today as I was out and about … going back to the doctor to get the results of my MRI from last Saturday, I decided to well … look people straight in the eye … the 4 second stare … 4 seconds feels much longer than one might imagine.

I got my MRI results – inconclusive … nothing drastically wrong but not quite text-book either – arthritis is rampant but I am told we all have it after a certain age … my posture is deplorable – curvature of the spine is more than it should be … this was told to the trailing doctor in training.  Injections will serve no purpose … duh?  I could have told you that … So what’s next?  Dr. L’s recommended course of action – physical therapy – already started and maybe try a chiropractor … not her field of expertise but has another physician friend who swears by them.  And in comes an image bubble – Jon Cryer aka Alan Harper – chiropractor extraordinaire. Something about a “real” doctor.  Lol :).  On my own I might just try acupuncture, healing crystals, meditation and/or Airrosti.  A girl’s got to do, what a girl has got to do.  Am I right?  RIGHT!

So back to eye contact … I am getting in the elevator on 2 – trying to get down to 1 but elevator is actually going up to 3.  Cute elderly couple are with me and I look them both right in the eye and say “oh well I guess I am going for a ride” to which the gentleman replies “oh but it’s a nice ride if you have to take one” When they got out, both of them looked me right in the eye and told me “have a blessed day!”

Before the door could close, a women with a cast on her arm jumps in … I looked her right in the eye.  She says “I pushed SL, not sure if you’re going there”.  I said “no, I need 1 but I am out of it today” She replies, “it’ll get better” I push 1, elevator starts to move but then we stop on 2.  In rolls a lady with her walker.  Her eyes, they just sparkle.  She says “look at us, what a bunch we are but we’ll all be ok, at least I think I will be”  She proceeds to tell us how one doctor botched her surgery, one leg was made much shorter than the other … so much so that her hip collapsed.  Said she was unconscious at the time or she never would have picked “him” to be her surgeon.  Her words do not match her attitude.  Her manner is jovial; she is happy.  She proceeds, “attitude is everything, we will ALL be ok!”

The two of us get off on 1, said goodbye to the cast lady going to sub level.  We continue talking and I get her to tell me who … so I can avoid that doctor … she said who but quickly added “you know, I don’t hold a grudge.  My current doctors are fantastic … this is as it should be” and WOW … my mind is blown … AS IT SHOULD BE.  Hey, that’s my mantra … all the crap that happens … sucky stuff too and in hindsight, when the dust settles, the life lessons are always it happened for a reason (mostly unknown at the time) and everything is as it should be.  I held the door for her, so she could more easily push her walker through.  We parted ways and for the 2nd time today, I was told to have a blessed day.

So now, I am just passing along that sunshine.  Blessings of the 4 second stare.  When you are out and about … look them in the eye.  Who knows, you too may find your own sparkling eyed kindred spirit.

As always, more to come …


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