Kickin It 80s Style


Just getting started!!!!

As always more to come.


#SoCS ~ Contrast


I am late, I am late for a very important date!  You are not the White Rabbit … you are J-Dub.  And you are not late because there are no rules.  Well … there are some rules but not any attendance policies.  To be sure, double-check me.  Here are the rules and ping back.  I encourage everyone to play along.

This idea has been percolating in my mind for a bit but I could not really produce the words until now. Stream of consciousness style so sit back and fasten your seatbelts, this might be a bumpy night.  I am all kick ass and channeling my inner Bette!

Acceptance, tolerance and embrace.  Are there differences?

I accept what I cannot change but I may not like what I am accepting.  Most people think acceptance is a good thing.  And I agree, in large part acceptance maybe a good thing yet acceptance can also be just a minimum standard.

According to Merriam Webster:

Definition of accepting

1able or willing to accept something or someone inclined to regard something or someone with acceptance rather than with hostility or fear often + of

  • I had become more accepting of death as an inevitable and natural part of life …
2tending to regard different types of people and ways of life with tolerance and acceptance


Stay with me here.  Tolerance.  Is that good?  To me, tolerate is to put up with something.  Again, something I may not like.  Merriam Webster agrees with me:

Definition of tolerate

1a to allow to be or to be done without prohibition, hindrance, or contradiction

1b to put up with 

J-Dub did you even understand the prompt?  Where is your contrasting?

It is here!  Right now!

I say instead of acceptance and tolerance, how about we embody what it is to embrace?

Definition of embrace

1a to clasp in the arms hug
1b cherishlove
3a to take up especially readily or gladly 
3b to avail oneself of welcome 
4to take in or include as a part, item, or element of a more inclusive whole 
4b to be equal or equivalent to 
  • Charity embraces all acts that contribute to human welfare
Now! People!  Not tomorrow!  Start today!
The Golden Rule is much, much more than accept or tolerate.  Embrace diversity, embrace your fellow humans.  Understand that for the most part, we all want the same things.  Methods may vary sure but we are all in it together. And I will try not to twist my ankle jumping off my soap box. I am fin!
But, … I have to ask … Can you dig it?
I knew that you could.
As always, more to come.

Where Were You on 12/15/97 @ 10:50 PM?


Where were you 20 years ago on this day at this time?

B and I were welcoming our baby girl into the world!  Bittersweet.  And you surely have to ask why would this blessed life changing event be bittersweet?

As I was in the hospital, my parents were in Galveston at my Uncle M’s funeral.  The in-laws were at home with Pony who was pissed off that he only got to stay for a little while because it was a school night.  In hindsight, we should have let him skip school the next day.  The things one worries about.  A day of 4th grade would have made no difference but being together would have been priceless.  I digress.  That is not what this story is about.

We didn’t know it at the time but mom would be dead five weeks later.  Yes, I said dead versus a kinder euphemism.  Though she didn’t know it yet, cancer had spread through her entire body, deep into her bones.  She would learn of her fate on New Year’s Eve 1997. Again, I digress.  That is not what this story is about.

Land the plane J-Dub!  But the destination has changed since you took off on this journey to tell this story.  I had an idea in mind to commemorate the birth of our daughter.  So much for that.  Wait!  Never too late.  You can turn this around.

My dearest Lulu,

Never has such a caring and sensitive soul graced this planet.  You are our Lulu, our baby girl.  We waited for you for so long.  My best birthday present ever! You are strong and independent.  Dare I say brave.  And yes I am your momma so I am allowed to say this with rose-colored glasses.  My heart is full of love and admiration. You have overcome more of life’s missiles than I had hoped you’d ever experience and yet that has made you who you are today.  The best YOU that you can be.  My wish is that you believe in yourself as much as we believe in you!  

I love you to the moon and back times infinity, 

Your Mom

As always, more to come.

Couple of Things


Thing One:

New category alert!  Maybe, if I am not lazy.  Been kicking around What Line Is This?

I’d throw out a random line from a book, movie, or song and see if folks can guess it.

I say: Space may be the final frontier, But it’s made in a Hollywood basement

You say: Californication by RHCP!

Winner, winner, chicken dinner!

Thing Two:

Lulu girl is home for winter break aka Christmas and New Years.  Yay!  Tomorrow she turns 20.  She passed me right up as I am only 19. How the hell do things like that keep happening?  Say it with me folks, you are NOT old J-Dub.  You’re as young as you feel!

The trip to get her was uneventfully.  I blasted the tunes all the way there.  This was my last hurrah for XM satellite radio.  Oh how I remember being sucked in with a free trial offered by GM when I got my Impala SS.  I did not renew because fuck that, I am not paying for airwaves.  Then I traded in the Impala for my baby Buick and got another free trial.  Once that expired, I caved and did buy into the hype treating myself and not even noticing the price tag.  I mean c’mon J-Dub give a coat not unicorn farts!  But that was so yesterday.

Any hoo, now that we are nickel and diming everything to have enough moolah for monthly land payments, I am cancelling both subscriptions.  If I had thought about it sooner, I’d have made a list of the songs I heard on Lithium, XM 34 to create my own playlist post XM annihilation. Such a dramatic!  I am kicking their ass to the curb.

As always, more to come.

Here’s Why


… we keep the thermostat at 65 degrees.

Greetings! Your CPS Energy bill for this month is now available for online viewing and payment through our Manage My Account service.

Balance Due: $ 64.19
Due Date: December 29, 2017.

And that included a snow day!!

Or just maybe we’re hot stuff all on our own.

And yes I am deflecting for drama that has ensued.  Tomorrow we dance!!!

As always, more to come.



I am on a mini-vacation so tell me please … why am I up?  Anybody?  Yep!  No reason.  Ugh!

I didn’t have to get up as early on this non-work day.  I even had B re-set the alarm for a later time. Maybe that jinxed me.  All I know is that my mind is racing.

I had lab work done last week for my annual physical.  The actual appointment is not until next week but the labs are walk in, first come first serve basis.  I always like to do my labs early enough so that results are ready to have my doc go over with me come appointment time.

Until we started this method, I’d go in for physical and get the orders for labs that day.  Results would come in the mail and if I had questions, I would need to go back or call in. Now everything is through the online portal.  I love this.  The Go Green recycle club kid in me is happy for less paper.  But … there is always a but.

Guess what happens??  I get an email that my lab results have been uploaded to the portal.  Why is this bad?  Well, it isn’t when you’re normal.  Me on the other hand, I am off center.  My heart starts racing when I go to log in.  My rational mind knows that if anything was awry, they’d call me.  Still my anxiety ridden mind goes to worst case scenario.  People are fallible.  What if?  What if I have some dreaded disease they delayed telling me about?  What if my Crestor is no longer working?

All of a sudden I feel lightheaded.  Nope, not all of a sudden.  I’ve been feeling lightheaded and dizzy all week … well since I got the online portal email!

Believe it or not, I am better than I used to be though.  I used to worry about mix ups at the lab.

Doctor: All normal Ms. J-Dub.

Me: Uh really?  Probably wasn’t even my blood you tested.

Conspiracy theory much? Somebody stop me.

As always, more to come.